Like in the childhood game, “telephone,” the first call came from the neighbor across the street, who called the son in Pennsylvania who, in turn, called his sister in Maine, who, in turn, called me, the eldercare consultant in New Rochelle, New York. The town their mother, and I, called home. It seems the neighbor … Continue reading A Daughter’s Plea, A Mother’s Rebuttal
They met during WW2 – he, a handsome Yankee flyboy; she, a Morse Code operator for the Women’s Australian Air Force. He was fascinated by her flaming red hair and beauty; she was attracted to his bravado and good looks. They married and he moved her from the sunny shores of Terrigal, NSW, to northern … Continue reading In Honor of Older American’s Month – One Aging Life Care Manager’s story
By: Lisa Mayfield As more residents in retirement communities are diagnosed with COVID-19, some families are struggling with the decision of whether to bring their parents back home. With all the uncertainty surrounding COVID-19, this is an understandable and important question. Yet any consideration of a move should not be taken lightly, especially with so … Continue reading Should I move mom back home?
With ALCA Members Kate Granigan and Lisa Mayfield
Often when adult siblings receive a crisis alert that elderly Mom or Dad is sick, it is common for old roles and competitiveness to flare. How quickly an adult child can revert into acting like a kid when siblings get together. There is just something about being with brothers and sisters that can send you … Continue reading Sibling Rivalry and Aging Parents: 5 Tips to Keep the Peace
The fight over the last piece of pumpkin pie may not be the only struggle this Thanksgiving. As families gather around the table, many will have the difficult conversations of how to care for mom or dad. These conversations can be emotionally charged and test sibling bonds. How to Overcome & Manage Sibling Conflict with Aging … Continue reading Turkey with a Side of Sibling Conflict
If you are an only child, you may be worried about caring for your aging parents alone. But having siblings — one or a few — does not ensure you will have help. The best advice is to prepare early, stay organized, and don’t be afraid to ask for a little help. Caring for Aging Parents Doesn’t … Continue reading If I am an Only Child, How Can I Manage the Care of My Aging Parents?
Faced with the challenge of bringing comfort and safety to one client meant juggling multiple issues – hoarding, guardianship, social services, power of attorney, estranged family, and a beloved cat. Aging Life Care Professional® Byron Cordes, MSW, LCSW, CASWCM shares how his team made it happen, all the while keeping attorneys, doctors, and family members … Continue reading Aging Life Care Association® Members on Advocating and Protecting Client Wishes
How to Manage and Overcome Sibling Conflict When Caring for Aging Parents by Debra D. Feldman, MSW, LCSW, CMC, Aging Life Care Association Member It is hard enough to get past your emotions when caring for your parents while trying to make the “right” decisions on their behalf. It becomes more difficult when there is … Continue reading Manage Sibling Conflict When Caring for Aging Parents